Drama Llama

Do you have members that complain about drama on your forum? Is it the same members? Most members? Do you delete topics after they complain to keep them happy?

Have you ever experienced betrayal by a Co-Owner?

I’ve heard of people who had to deal with co-owners who steal the forum from them as well as others who just ghosted them. Tell us the dramatic details you’ve experienced?

Some people have been using forums for more than 10 years or even more. During this period, they have witnessed a lot of things and different characters when it comes to the forum owners.

If you're ever to point out any forum owner you know to be a dramatic person, who's that going to be?

How would you deal with this? You have a co-worker who is really nice and is a great friend, but has a lot of drama that is brought to the workplace? The boss doesn’t care for her, but likes you and you’re worried you’ll be passed up for a promotion through association?

This isn’t my current situation, btw, just a past situation that I was unsure how to deal with.

Do you secretly enjoy watching forum drama?

Social media platforms attract huge user base. People from different backgrounds and people having different opinions and perspectives are active on various social media platforms. Therefore, social media platforms are highly prone to dramas. Based on your personal experience, which social media platform draws more drama?

I have always steered clear of drama on forums as best I can, but there are always times when I tend to somehow get dragged into drama, even if I did not want to be involved.

How often would you say you have started forum drama?

There are some people who can't stand drama of any sort. They feel like their peace of mind is being choked out because of constantly witnessing drama in where they are.

Have you ever been forced to quit using a forum due to drama? What happened?

What are some ways that you like to employ to avoid drama? How has that worked for you in the past?

Do people really sign up on sites just to troll? Not just forums, but blogs, and social media too? I haven't met anyone in real life who would confess to doing that, so I wonder what that kind of person is like in real life.

Has there ever been a time where forum drama has affected your mental health and how do you do with it to ensure that it doesn't bring you down? Have you ever had to step aside from a forum because it was affecting your mental health?

I've found that drama comes along if you work with others, doesn't matter if you work in an office or if you work in retail there's always going to be drama. So what do you do when drama occurs at the workplace? Do you listen to what others are saying, and share your two cents or do you try to ignore it? It's best to try and ignore it of course but sometimes it's hard not to chime in!

These days drama happens in any platforms where users can share their opinion, for instance, social media, discussion board, or forums. Do you see dramas more on social media communities or on forums? Where do you see dramas being nasty, social media or forums?

Thoughts on members saying they’re leaving?

I always tend to think it’s not doing the site any favors and lets others chime in on badmouthing you, and usually it’s only 2 or 3 that have those feelings and not the other 5,000. I’ve been removing those kinds of posts off my Facebook group because they annoy me.

If a member caused so much drama and got banned and in retaliation they decided to clone/copycat your forum how would you handle this? Have you seen this happen before and if so how was it handled?

When COVID was going strong, my daughter was in high school.

So, she was at home, on Snap and TickTock and other teenage girls were on it too, belittling each other and spreading rumors.

It got to the point where we threatened to make her delete her socials and told the parents of the bullying kids that we’d call the Sheriff’s Office because internet bullying is a crime. Those parents thought it wasn’t a big deal. Heck there are kids committing suicide over that stuff.

Anyone ever had to deal with that kind of drama?

Luckily, our girl is a good kid and stayed away and blocked people, but she also didn’t want us to constantly monitor her stuff which we were willing to do if forced.

Have you ever been part of a forum that died off but tried to get revived but it took a complete turn and backfired?

For example

• Old admins returning and acting like nothing happened

• Announcements about the revive that get no responses

• Owners and admins wanting to continue things the old way instead of coming up with new ideas

• Members that moved on and don't want to return

My host has been whacked with thousands of AI scraper/crawler bots, to the point it's used 100% of my CPU usage & 83% of my RAM, i've been trying in vein to fix this issue for about a week now and i'm at my wits end.

I'd hate to move away from Xenforo but honestly, with the pricing of VPS hosting and everything else going up, it might be the move. >_<

Just ranting don't mind me. :P

Fuck AI.

Tell us about the last time you came across drama on the highway!

Here's a thread to post today's drama that doesn't need it's own thread.

Today's drama is...

Let's face it we're all human and we're all going to disagree at some point or another about things. This can definitely cause drama in families especially when hot button topics like politics and religion are brought up at the dinner table. So have you dealt with family drama before and were you able to get over the drama? They say life is too short to keep the drama going, but sometimes it's hard to drop it.

I think a lot of us know someone in our families that cause drama whenever there's a family get together or on Facebook. Some people like to stir the pot and won't reason with you because they view life in a different way. Who is that person in your family? I feel like a few of my cousins are like this, so I parted ways with them on Facebook. Life is too short to deal with drama, so I just cut people out of my life when they stir the pot too much.

Lately I've been hearing and reading threads over on the Xenforo support forums that are full of drama. Between people complaining about the fact that Xenforo relies on third party devs for lots of their plugins to people feeling like they're being ganged up on by staff I've seen it all. I haven't seen too much drama on other support forums, I'm sure it was more of a problem back when forums were still super popular. Xenforo is one of the most popular forum software and the support forums are active so it's no wonder why there's some drama over there.

I'm curious to know if anyone here has ever dealt with drama while they were on vacation before. Whether it's from a rowdy stranger in a hotel, or possibly drama with another person in an amusement park I'd like to hear if you were ever caught in the middle of drama on vacation! I've thankfully never dealt with this, I typically keep to myself so I avoid any situation that could cause drama.

Some topics attract drama where as other topics don't. Generally speaking, general discussion topics don't attract drama but the topics like race, religion, ethnicity, politics bring in more drama. What do you think some topics bring in more drama to a community compared to other topics?